I was reading the latest blog post by somebody who’s having
a tough time coping with her emotional reaction to difficult circumstances. It
seems to me that she’s buckling under the pressure, and I was reminded again of
how most of us frequently get something wrong.
We all know that we’re all made differently, and that
everybody’s reaction to the same problem is likely to be at least slightly
different. What many of us often fail to realise is that differences in the level
of individual sensitivity aren’t always slight; sometimes they’re massive. The
majority of people fall within reasonable parameters, and so the majority
regard that range as ‘normal.’ The minority are outside the range; some are
remarkably insensitive, while others feel every pin prick as though it were a
carving knife. They’re often the people who become artists, musicians, poets
and writers, and they can’t help being that way. It’s how they’re made. There’s
even a persuasive theory that it’s due to their brains being wired differently.
So what we need to do is stop judging a person’s reaction according
to our own view of the circumstances, and instead see it in terms of the person
reacting to them. No more ‘I don’t see why you’re taking this so seriously, it’s
only a damn such-and-such. Pull yourself together.’ It really isn’t that
simple, and it only makes things worse for the poor unfortunate who is suffering. Do
understand, please; they’re suffering,
whether we think they should be or not.
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