Wednesday, 6 September 2017

A Metaphor for Talking.

Just lately I’m finding that I’m dividing people into three groups when it comes to holding a conversation.

First there are the great majority of people with whom having a conversation is like trying to dig into builders’ rubble. It’s all on the surface, so you pick among the stones, half bricks and bits of broken glass, getting nowhere. Eventually you tire of the effort and say ‘well, must be going.’ And that’s that.

Then there are those who resemble soft sand. Digging is easy and you feel you’re getting somewhere, but only for so long. Eventually you hit bedrock and there’s no point in digging further. You say ‘well, must be going.’ And that’s that.

The third group is the special one and composed of a very small number of individuals. They’re like soft sand, too, but this time there’s no bedrock. You can dig for as long as you like, but as you get deeper the air becomes thinner and the light level drops to inky darkness. When you get to the point of becoming blind, suffocated and confused, you have to hightail it back to the surface and try again another day. They’re the people I talk to. I don’t talk much.

(There’s a fourth group, too. They’re the ones who let you do all the digging while they keep pace and watch in silence. I only know one person in that group and I’m not allowed to talk to her any more. That’s why I put it in parentheses at the end.)

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