I was going to say something nice about her, but not if it’s all I’m allowed to do. Forget that one.
Friday, 3 December 2010
If You're Going to Make Your Blog Public...
I came across a new blog today. It was quite appealing and I was going to leave a comment – until I saw the long spiel on her comment form. It seems she had a comment once that displeased her. I don’t know what, since she doesn’t elaborate, but now she has a rule that might be summarised as ‘You are only allowed to make comments if they say nice things about me.’
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Hi there, could you link me to this blog? I was interested by the first part ^_^
Hmm.. I find that annoying, but I suppose some people take negative comments better than others.. I too, am interested in this blog now!
I might just add that I can't see myself ever making a nasty comment on somebody's blog. If I felt that way, I would almost certainly just not comment. The point is that I don't like being told that I'm not allowed to be honest and objective where appropriate. People have criticised me often enough and I don't deny them that right. To do so would be, in itself, a form of dishonesty.
I've found that links don't work in my comment form, but the URL is http://awesomehorsestuff.blogspot.com/
I absolutely agree with you. If you're going to make it public and put it up on the internet for millions to potentially read, then you must be open to the reality that they might criticise. To deny this right is to deny oneself as a writer... preemptive strikes are not permitted.
Thanks for the link, hoping to have some fun with this (:
Sincerely,
Anon
I do hope you’re not going to give the poor girl a hard time, Anon. She has every right to be who she is, and nobody should presume to tell her she must change. My only reason for making the post was to make a point about why I wouldn’t follow such a blog.
I didn't tell her that she should change... I just advised her that her defensive strategy would become immediately perforated in reality, and that trying to avoid the nasty comments would be misleading, as it would only suggest that they do not exist - not very healthy.
Whether or not she finds it helpful is her prerogative of course. Speaking from personal experience, denying the reality is borderline dangerous and even the smallest predisposition to denying criticism is... harmful.
I understand your reason for making your post, of course, and I'm not suggesting that we're entirely on the same page.
I do what I must to get sleep at night. If it helps you, I had no intentions of torturing her further anyhow.
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