On Wisdom and the Cocoa Bean.

Part of my New Year’s Eve rambling to myself (there being no other person present to whom I could ramble verbally) involved coming up with a definition of ‘wisdom.’ I couldn’t do it. Wisdom is one of those qualities – like love – which appear to exist but have no universal definition. At one point I came up with:

Wisdom counsels, but avoids advising and never instructs.

Well, I suppose there’s something of minor worth there, but it isn’t a definition. It’s just a sound bite, and sound bites are almost invariably inadequate because they consciously seek to address abstract values which are not only complex but also untouchable.

Eventually I decided that it’s probably something to do with knowing yourself, living up to your own values, seeking to augment those values, and then promoting the concept to anybody who wants to listen (and keeping quiet if they don’t.) It seemed general enough. And then I wrote this because I was bored and tired of being earnest. I wonder whether hot chocolate would help.

A Personal Mystery for New Year's Eve.

’Tis now New Year’s Eve and the traditional time to look back over that artificially contrived span we call twelve months. I don’t usually bother, since dates are just numbers and I’ve long felt that the definition of a year should be solstice to solstice. But this year something is tugging at me, insisting that I write it down for no better reason than the fact that it seems rather more significant than it should. Back in May I was visited for the first time by the wraith of the Lady B.

At this juncture I should explain that I had known her for about ten years by then, and during that time she had moved in incremental stages further and further to the edge of my orbit. In consequence – and being a bear of moderate brain – I thought I had put her behind me and that she was no longer of any significance, especially since such significance had always been a bit of a mystery anyway. Not so.

On that day in the merry month of May I was hit in the middle of my chest with such force that it arrested my movement and seemed to pull my head and shoulders down. (Imagine getting a sudden and severe attack of heartburn; it was something like that.) And the message which rose into my mind from the onslaught was unequivocal. It told me in no uncertain terms that my fondness for the dear lady was undiminished, and so was the magical, magnetic pull which her presence in this world had long exerted on me, almost certainly without any artifice or volition on her part. And then, less than a week later, I learned that she had left my orbit altogether and shut the door behind her.

I found it devastating at the time and struggled for weeks to understand why. Eventually I did and it helped, but the wraith became a regular visitor and continues so to be.

So should I be grateful that she left something of her presence behind to haunt me - forcibly, though not aggressively - on the byways of the Shire, in my house, and even in the little market towns to which I make regular forays? I don’t know. On the one hand it can be enervating; on the other, it brings a splash of colour to an otherwise grey life. And maybe one day the wraith will explain to me the mystery of the Lady B connection. But that raises its own issue: without knowing what the explanation is, I can’t know whether or not it would be welcome.

Meanwhile, I can now rest content in ending the year with a brief explanation as to why the Lady B has attracted so many posts in 2017. I expect they will continue because some things just refuse to lie down and at least pretend to be dead even if they're not.

Avoiding the Badger Mafia.

We had quite heavy rain last night and rain has a disastrous effect on my bird tables. The contents, being a mixture of rolled oats and mixed seeds, turn into a cold, wet, gloopy substance which I like to refer to grandly as ‘fortified porridge.’ But the birds don’t like it. I see them looking disconcerted when I open the curtains in the morning, and the robins – being the most knowing of birds – eye me with a look which clearly indicates a measure of avian discontent. So I have to scrape it all off and replace it with fresh, dry stuff, and then the little feathered friends flock eagerly to the table again and all is right with the world. (They never fly to me and tweet a word of thanks, but sometimes you just have to accept that good deeds are their own reward.)

So what do I do with the scraped off stuff? Do I throw it away, thereby sticking hot needles into my extreme sense of disquiet at wasting perfectly good food? Nope; I deposit as much as I can manage in a polythene bag and tip it out close to a nearby badger sett. Badgers seem to be quite partial to cold, wet gloopy stuff. I came across one feasting on it in my garden a few winters ago, so I should know. And my question is this:

How smart are badgers? Might they have come to recognise that heavy rain is the precursor to a free supper of fortified porridge? And if I fail in my now time-honoured practice, will they take the hump and come a-stalking to punish me for my oversight? Badgers are the heaviest, strongest and toughest of the carnivorous mammals we have in Britain, so getting on the wrong side of a whole family of them probably isn’t a good idea.

The Southern Faux Festival.

There are several theories as to why 25^th December was chosen by the Romans to be Christmas Day, but most of them relate in one way or another to its close proximity with the winter solstice (the whole of Christendom being at that time in the northern hemisphere.) I think it reasonable to suggest, therefore, that in a cultural sense, Christmas is simply the current incarnation of the Midwinter Festival which has been practiced since time immemorial. And it is a routinely recognised fact that many well established Christmas traditions are pagan in origin.

So what about those people living in the southern hemisphere who celebrate Christmas alongside the summer solstice? Midsummer and midwinter are completely different in character and have different attributes associated with them. Australians and the like should surely be celebrating Christmas in June, otherwise the celebration has lost its connection with its historical root – which is most important in my opinion.

This is yet another mess we Christian Europeans created by insisting on ruling the world for our own benefit. (And it’s interesting to note that the Chinese never made that mistake, despite their having been the world’s premier civilisation at several points in history.)

On Misanthropy and Aspiration.

I’m one of those people who fit the occasionally heard statement: ‘I dislike people, but I love humanity.’ It sounds like an oxymoron, doesn’t it, since humanity is made up entirely of people, but actually it isn’t. What we love about humanity is its potential; what we dislike about people is their constant failure to aspire to that potential.

Too many people are consumed with a selfish disregard for the rights and needs of others. They start wars for stupid, selfish, arrogant and misguided reasons. They foster systems which reward the psychopath. They’re too prone to abusing one another, and often take pride in so doing. They abuse animals as a matter of course because they allow themselves to believe that animals have no emotions, don’t feel pain, and generally don’t matter anyway. They slavishly follow religious traditions which encourage this view, claiming that it is sanctioned by their version of God; and those whose God has a different name too often get slaughtered or abused themselves for being out of step with some small minded notion of rightness. They give to the rich and tread the poor into the ground, and the rich hoard greedily beyond their capacity to spend while the less fortunate struggle to subsist and often fail. And all over the world there persists the notion that women are inherently inferior to men, there only to serve the will, the desires, the needs and the criminally carnal drives of the physically stronger sex. I could go on…

I saw a fragment of a TV programme tonight in which a Thai woman was greeting her draft elephant at the start of the working day. The degree of mutual affection and respect which passed between them seemed entirely genuine, and I trust my judgement in such matters because I’ve been studying the signs of artifice for a long time. And then the woman said:

When I was a child I saw a bull elephant in the jungle. He was wounded from his logging work, but they drove him on regardless. The look in his eyes changed my life forever.

Therein lies the aspiration to human potential, and there are more climbing the same ladder. The two groups I have a problem with, and which validate my tendency to misanthropy, are:

1. The other 90+%.

2. The ones who hold most of the power in the world.

And so my prayer to the God of Small Things is: ‘Please show me more of those who aspire to humanity’s potential, that I may walk the rest of my road in company with the cream.’

On Emptiness and Patience.

The last post I made was one of my poorest. It was so badly written that it was beyond editing and I thought I should take it down. But then I decided to take Omar Kayyam’s moving finger literally and let it stand as testament to an imperfect being.

There’s a darkness inside me at the moment. It’s a grey, foggy sort of darkness which hangs silent and impotent in a void of its own making. Emptiness does not suit the living being. Emptiness is symptomatic of the dying time when the frigid air is filled with nothing but unreal images of times past going round and round on a wheel in the mind’s eye. Nature abhors a vacuum, and the nature of man is no exception.

A vacuum needs to be filled with life-giving air and energy – the fresh new growth of spring, the balmy breezes, the strength of a waxing sun, the scent of new-mown hay drifting off the field. The problem is that you cannot force the progress of spring. Though driven by an irresistible imperative, she’s young and fickle of purpose; she comes when she’s ready.

And that’s what this year’s Midwinter Festival has felt like: trudging without vigour through a dismal wood with only sleeping, skeletal trees for company, waiting for something or someone draped in colour, light and adventure to walk around the next bend so I can say: ‘May I walk with you for a while?’ I’ve been here before.

Tell Me Who I Am.

There’s a song that was recommended to me by the priestess recently and I’ve listened to it several times. It includes the lines:

There are worlds within me that I cannot explain

There are so many doors but they all look the same

I am lost, I don’t even remember my name

A few lines later it ends with:

…please tell me who I am

I think this relates to a problem experienced by those beset by the reclusive tendency and to which I’ve referred several times on this blog.

It seems to me that people rarely recognise that their sense of personal identity is largely a reflection – positively or negatively – of the environments in which they operate and the fellow human beings who operate there with them. As the recluse becomes more reclusive and turns his back on those people and environments, he suddenly wakes up one day and realises that he doesn’t know who he is because there’s so little to show him. It’s a feeling I have occasionally experienced. It’s confusing and uncomfortable, but I suppose you just have to get used to it and keep putting one foot in front of the other. There is, after all, a grain of personal identity still slumbering somewhere inside, so maybe it’s just a matter of finding the right people and environments to put some flesh back on the bones.

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Tonight’s Lady B post didn’t get made because the allegory was too convoluted and I couldn’t be bothered to struggle with it. It was all to do with a pearl, a beach and the ebb tide. Will that do?

The Lady B at Christmas.

The Lady B’s ghost did her charging rhino act again last night. She does occasionally; her wraith crashes into my consciousness with an almighty thud and it’s always unexpected. It happens when I’m engaged in some trivial act which has no connection with her and I’ve no idea why.

But of course, it led me to wonder what her erstwhile host is doing this Christmas and where she is doing it. I wonder whether she is musing quietly on her life thus far; I wonder whether she is looking into some celestial mirror and taking stock. I wish she would tell me, but she won’t and neither should she, since the only constructive purpose in looking back is to turn again and move forward with augmented intelligence.

And just to prove that I’m nothing if not imperfect in approving my own edicts, I have to say that I miss her and her little dog a lot sometimes. But trials will be trials and challenges will be challenges and isn’t that what Christmas is all about? And Christmas just wouldn’t be Christmas without a Lady B post, would it?

Finding Christmas.

It’s been an odd sort of Christmas this year. For as much as I’ve tried to ignore it as usual, something of its essence has refused to remain quiet. It pressed itself remorselessly against the creaky, reluctant door of my mind, persuading the rusty hinges to give just a little more until something of its fabric could be glimpsed in the dark recesses beyond.

What I saw, or thought I saw – for the light was low and the images vague – was not the Christmas of common practice. The three foundations comprising the spiritual, the commercial, and the traditional were entirely absent. There was no merrymaking, no gathering of the flock, no gift giving, and no thanks held up to any saviour of mankind.

There was only a kind of musty melancholy, but not the depressed kind. There was no joy, no excitement, no fear, no pain; and yet it was not without substance. There drifted from it the need to muse quietly on a life lived thus far, and to accept the challenge to look into some celestial mirror and take stock. I saw the Green Knight come to Arthur’s court at Christmas; I heard his challenge and felt Gawain’s response. And out of the darkness flowed some intimation of great significance about the midwinter festival.

Christmas Cheer from My Favourite God.

Christmas Day in the Shire has been mild, damp and breezy. The walk was pleasant and I managed to remain amenable to the couple who wished me a merry Christmas when I passed them in Mill Lane (it always happens when I go for a walk on Christmas Day.) I decided that gushing would be dishonest, but they did get a slightly lukewarm ‘same to you’ in return. Ah, but then the good old God of Small Things stepped in to ensure that my Christmas should not be entirely devoid of cheer.

There are two horses temporarily domiciled in a field at the bottom of my lane. One is a grey hunter of about 16 hands, the other a neat little bay of about 15.1. They often watch me with some curiosity when I walk past and they always get a word and a wave in return. Today was different; today they trotted over to the field boundary hedge and stretched their heads so far across it that I was able to touch their noses. Making physical contact with animals is a singular treat to me, so I did have a merry Christmas of sorts after all.

On Meghan's Munching.

Today’s BBC News website is headed by pictures of the royals arriving at Sandringham church for the Christmas Day service. They’re all dolled up in their posh outdoor gear, of course, and it struck me that between them they’re probably wearing about as much as five bus drivers get paid in a year. But then my sardonic irritation turned to a chill of horror.

The group included Prince Harry and that American actress he’s planning to wed. Do you realise she probably eats her food by holding her fork upside down in the wrong hand? Imagine the mortified and icily silent stares which must greet her presence at royal banquets. I venture to guess that Her Majesty the Queen is not all amused, and it certainly would never have been allowed when I was a boy (it’s my considered opinion that such was the real reason why Edward VIII had to abdicate over his affair with Mrs Simpson.)

Maybe Ms Markle will have the good grace to take her Christmas dinner alone in a private anteroom. It would require the engagement of extra staff, of course, which would precipitate yet further cost to the beleaguered exchequer. But if the royals can spend the annual income of five bus drivers on outdoor apparel, how much more valuable a return would be represented by the maintenance of proper standards for which we are all eternally grateful.

On Slim News and Sledging.

I’ve been searching the news pages for things to write about but nothing much is happening at the moment. China has built a very big plane that can land on water, but that’s no major surprise. They’ve got an awful lot of water in China. I expect the Americans would have got there first if only they didn’t have to share the Great Lakes with Canada. And the sports pages are full of Aussie cricketers insulting us poor old Poms as is their frequent wont. We ignore them, of course. What do you expect from the land of beer bellies, barbies, obsessive suburbanism and the ultimate nanny state? Our dear English cricketers’ stock reply should be: ‘We only come to play cricket, mate. What other reason is there to come here?’

And just in case anybody doesn’t get the joke, maybe I should explain that the issue of ‘sledging’ (barbed insults which cricketers hurl at each other on the playing surface, often couched in language which the more respectable journals decline to repeat verbatim, and the practice of which Australian cricketers consider a particular forte of theirs) is a big one at the moment. And my pejorative description of the land down under was carefully contrived in the hope that I might be the first person in the world to be accused of anti-Ozism. It would be nice to be a world leader in something.

Not Quite Scrooge.

I just watched the 1951 film Scrooge for the umpteenth time, and I still say that the two most convincing characters (apart from Scrooge himself, played brilliantly by Alistair Sim) are the charwoman and the wide-eyed maid who lets the reformed Ebenezer into Fred’s dinner party at the end.

But it was the message which struck a chilling chord with me. I don’t keep Christmas myself, you see, and I have been known to sit a sad and solitary figure in front of a meagre fire on Christmas Eve with a bowl of pea and potato soup perched precariously on my knee. But I took heart from the fact that at least I feed the birds, so maybe I might be spared the ignominy of having my bed curtains purloined and sold for a pittance to the rag and bone man.

Seasonal Music.

Here you go, here’s a rare bit of Christmas music I can recommend (at least, it’s from the Chieftains’ Bells of Dublin album and it says ‘Christmas Eve’ in brackets, so I suppose it must have something to do with Christmas.) Whatever its provenance or association, I can at least aver that it’s jolly, foot-stompingly pleasant, and unashamedly Irish in character.

My one regret is that there’s no accompanying video of long-legged step dancing colleens. If there were, the album could be re-titled The Belles of Dublin and then it would come even more highly recommended. 

On Petitions and Presumption.

I signed an online petition tonight against the deportation of American archaeologist Jennifer Wexler ordered by some clearly pea-brained bureaucrat in the Home Office. I signed it because I was enraged by the absurd reason given for the refusal to grant permanent residency, but then I was given another reason to be enraged. I got an email from the petition organiser which said:

In signing our petition you have joined our organisation. Here are lots more petitions we want you to sign (or words to that effect.)

Needless to say I took the necessary steps to unsubscribe, paying particular attention to my entry in the Tell us why you’re leaving (optional) box. If this is the sort of thing we’re supposed to accept in the modern online world, maybe it’s about time somebody organised a petition to rein back the unmitigated presumption of petition organisers.

Notes on Why.

A time to live, a time to die

A time to eat some apple pie

A time to leap, a time to lie

And never blessed with knowing why

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I haven’t mentioned the Lady B (or her ghost) for some time, have I? That’s because her spirit in physical absentia hasn’t assaulted my being like a charging rhino for some time now, and also because it sometimes seems like a pointless thing to do. The Lady B is probably the most tantalizing mystery of my life, but only I can understand why. I'm sure she doesn't have a clue and there's no reason why she should. I’ve thought of writing the whole story down and posting it here, but that would mean breaking the odd confidence or two and revealing things about myself which I wouldn’t wish to reveal except to a most trusted confidante. Besides, no one would get it. I expect she will rise again like the phoenix one of these days, as is her habit.

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‘Look at me. I’m 46 and have never left home. For the whole of my life I’ve lived with my parents. I’ve had a few boyfriends, but they were relatively superficial affairs and never lasted long. I’ve never been married, never had children, nor even lived the wild life. All I’ve done is kept my job and taken care of things.’

And this from one of the calmest, quietest, most consummately able people I’ve ever known. A delightful – maybe even inspirational – person who you would want to have with you in a crisis because she would handle it with relative ease. She handles everything with relative ease. Isn’t it a shame that people feel the impulse to denigrate themselves because they haven’t lived life in the manner prescribed by cultural convention?

A Slight Improvement.

Today I could have made posts on:

1. Trump’s welcome defeat at the United Nations.

2. The attitude to gender roles and sexual politics in China.

3. The watching of an Arthurian-themed TV series which would have taken me in completely as a young man, but which now has me bemoaning the absurd lack of credibility in certain plot points and the occasional serious lapses in the quality of acting and direction. (Why do we have to grow up?)

I didn’t make them because they all seemed too earnest, when what I really want to do is get back to playing the fool (in other words, being creatively silly.) It’s a role I was accepting quite happily until the darkening days, the plummeting temperature, and the onset of multiple woes over the past couple of months set the black dog snarling more aggressively than usual.

But today is the winter solstice, so tomorrow the sun starts climbing again. I’d decided not to bother with my usual solstice fire this year, but then changed my mind and had the fire. Some things are just too fundamental to let go of easily.

And this week has seen the welcome return of a treasured old cyber friend from Ohio, USA. Without wishing to tempt providence to breaking point, my fortunes have improved a little during the same period. Whether there is any causal relationship between the two facts or whether they are purely coincidental I have no idea, but the return of an old friend lifts the spirits whether connections may be inferred or not.

All I need now is a silly ditty to set the ball rolling. Working on it.

Christmas Songs and the Cynic.

‘I don’t make merry myself at Christmas,’ said one Ebenezer Scrooge of Curmudgeon Court, Old London Town. Neither do I. But unlike that most famous of all literary misanthropes, I have no objection to other people making merry and keeping the season in whatever way they wish as long as they don’t disturb me. Thankfully, they generally don’t.

What does disturb me, however, is the shopping experience. Most shops at this time of year have the same old Christmas songs playing over and over again, and most of the same old Christmas songs take as their theme either the Nativity story or the wonder of snow.

Well now, the Nativity story not only encourages the endless regurgitation of shamefully saccharin-encrusted lyrics, it’s also almost certainly a fraudulent fabrication concocted to fool the feeble minded (songs like Mary’s Boy Child and Silent Night kindle in my rationalist breast such a rage as can only be ameliorated by hurried egress from the offending retail establishment and the writing of blog posts like this one.) And as for snow being wonderful, not to me it isn’t. I hate the bloody stuff even more than I hate Mary’s Boy Child.

There is, however, one Christmas song which I can tolerate: Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas. That’s probably because it makes no mention of snow or babies in mangers, and was used to superbly ironic effect in the splendid anti war movie The Victors. None of the shops I’ve been into this year was playing it, and The Victors is far too depressing to watch a second time. Soon be next year.

On Meanie Miss Trump.

‘We will be taking names,’ says Trump of those states which oppose his recognition of Jerusalem as Israel’s capital. It’s an interesting statement. It puts me in mind of that stereotypical old schoolma’am, the ageing spinster who is unmarried not because she wants to be, but because she’s never found anybody masochistic enough to live with her meanness. She has grey hair pulled into a tight bun; she has hard eyes which speak volumes for fear and emotional insecurity; she wears a permanent frown and has thin, bloodless lips pulled down at the corners. She has no interest whatsoever in educating children, but is consumed with the need to control and bully those not yet strong enough to stand up to her.

This is the latest image of the wrecking ball known as Trump, determined as he is to bring the USA into ever greater disrepute. Let’s hear the phrase again:

We will be taking names

This is not the language of the White House as we remember it. This is the language of a third grade kindergarten in some small Midwest town that nobody has ever heard of. And once more the world looks at America and rolls its eyes.

As for Nikki Haley, she must surely be aware that if she continues on her present course she will be remembered by history as the consummate political whore. I’m sure I’m not the only one who thinks she would be well advised to nail her colours to a different mast before it’s too late.

Trump's Afterthought.

I gather Trump’s first tweet following the Tacoma derailment amounted to a blatant attempt to make political capital out of the tragedy (and rather foolishly, too, given that I assume the cause is yet to be established and therefore the question of infrastructure spending of unknown relevance.) Only later, apparently as an afterthought, did he make a second tweet in which he said his ‘thoughts and prayers’ were with the victims. I expect some advisor told him it would be good for his image…

But that phrase: ‘thoughts and prayers.’ It’s the standard phrase used by people who can’t think of anything original to say, and as such is effectively meaningless and carries a condemnatory message about the user. And it has to be asked whether Trump is the sort of person to have thoughts for victims anyway. It doesn’t seem likely, does it, given his track record thus far? And does he ever pray? Well, who knows?

So once again he paints himself as a sordid little man totally bereft of any finer virtues, while the world watches his every move and reads his every tweet. Oh to be an embarrassed American in the Time of Trump.

One Man and His Dog.

The reason there have been no posts since November 30^th is because there’s been too much depression, too much anxiety, too many issues. I simply haven’t been minded to say anything because there was little to say and none of it seemed worth saying. But today I saw something that lit a spark in a jaded mind: I saw a man walking his dog along the footpath which leads out of Uttoxeter bus station.

The dog was an unusual looking creature, part border collie and part borzoi was my considered guess, and the man matched the dog in the matter of oddness. There was something about his face and mannerisms which suggested one of those conditions typified by the umbrella term ‘learning difficulties.’

As they walked along the otherwise unoccupied path, the man would occasionally bend forward to slap the animal’s rump playfully. The dog apparently understood the gesture and responded happily. At one point the man halted the animal and moved forward to run his fingers through the mane of thick hair around its neck, and then buried his face in it to express affection. And again the dog responded with obvious delight while I watched from a distance and smiled. Dog and human rapt in mutual love, trust, and the pleasure of one another’s company.

And then it occurred to me that there are millions of people all over the world whose lives are made miserable or snuffed out altogether by the self-serving iniquities of cruel and greedy tyrants, furtive governments, and deluded people who place national, ethnic and sectarian boundaries above the qualities of compassion and humanity. And in this foul and foetid swell of a dark and depressing sea, once more the God of Small Things showed the true value of life to which we should all be aspiring.